As a caregiver for a loved one you are doing an amazing thing looking after them and caring for them. But providing care for a loved one day in and day out can take its toll on you. Caregiver burnout happens when you feel overwhelmed and are unable to take care of the daily demands. As stress builds it becomes more and more difficult to find the motivation to get things done. It affects your ability to provide care to your loved one and it affects the quality of your life.
It is common to have a bad day or an off day. But if that bad feeling seems to be happening more and more, you may be border line burned out.
Signs you may be on the road to burnout:
You’re exhausted all the time
You feel the things you are doing are not important or appreciated
You don’t have the energy to do the things you use to be able to do
Change in sleeping
Chronic pain (headache, back pain, etc.)
If you suffer from any of these signs for more than a few days, consider getting help. It may also be a sign that you can no longer be a caregiver to your loved one. You may be causing more harm than good by overextending yourself.
Causes of caregiver burnout
So what causes caregiver burnout? There are many reasons why caregivers feel burned out. You can have unrealistic expectations for your involvement for your loved one. You may expect all the good you are doing for a loved one to bring them happiness, but that may not be realistic. When you are a caregiver for a loved one you may place unreasonable burdens on yourself. You make being a caregiver your only priority and put everything else aside. If your loved one is suffering for a long term illness you can become frustrated by the lack of resources and skills to help provide excellent care for them. These can all contribute to caregiver burnout.
Preventing caregiver burnout
There are several things you can do to help prevent caregiver burnout. The first step is having someone you can trust to talk to about your feelings and frustrations. Know your limits and set realistic goals in your caregiver abilities. Accept that you need help providing care for your loved one. Another option to help caregiver burnout is to take advantage of respite care services. Respite care provides a temporary break. It can be a few hours or a few days.
Most importantly, if you have negative feelings, like anger or frustration, that is normal. It does not mean you are a bad person or a bad caregiver. Accept those feelings; find someone to talk about being a caregiver, either a friend or a professional. Just because you need to talk to someone does not mean you cannot handle being someone’s caregiver.
If you are providing care for a love one and find that you getting burned out more and more, you may consider hiring a professional caregiver. Not sure if you can afford in home care for a loved one? One option to help pay for a professional caregiver is with a Reverse Mortgage. A Reverse Mortgage lets you access the equity your loved one has built up in their home. Your loved one can stay in their home and get the care they deserve. Talk to your loved one and discuss a Reverse Mortgage option. A Reverse Mortgage can provide the funds for a caregiver among other things, so they can stay in their home, instead of going to a nursing home.
Contact one of our licensed professionals here at One Reverse Mortgage today to see if a Reverse Mortgage is right for you and your loved one. It can be the answer to your caregiver issues. Call today at (800)442-6828 to learn more about the Reverse Mortgage process.